Your relationship broke up, but you still want to fix it and bring back your ex. It’s not impossible, many couples have done it, so why not you? Even if there was little chance for you to get back together, wouldn’t you want to give it a last try? You have invested yourself so much in a relationship, you shouldn’t just let go when a problem arises.
Here’s what you need to do to bring back your ex… and his/her lost love for you.
First, you need to get rid of all the post-breakup negative emotions. Don’t stay in your room all day, listening to romantic songs and crying while remembering all the good times you had together. You’re done with the crying now, it’s time to get up, shake yourself and go out there to get your ex back. Hangout with your friends and spend some time doing stuffs that you like. It’s better not to think about the breakup at all, and avoid talking or talking advice about it with your friends and family.
You will need to have a lot of patience, dedication and discipline to bring back your ex. It’s not going to happen overnight and you are going to have to work hard for it. Many factors will determine how hard it’s going to be. For example, it may be harder for you to get back with your ex when you have been dating just a few months, compared to those who have been together for years.
Another important step, is to leave your ex alone for a while. When you’re always trying to stay in touch by force, your ex will feel suffocated and might even want to run away just to avoid you. But, when you disappear from his/her life, he/she will feel like a void and may even start missing you.
Friendship is your bridge to win your ex’s lost love, so don’t reject his/her friendship. As friends, you will have many opportunities to say the many things that will motivate him/her to get back with you. Since you have already accepted the breakup and got rid of the post-breakup negative emotions, it’s better you avoid talking about it in future conversations.
You certainly must have had a lot of good memories together (if not, why are you even trying to get back together?). Whenever you have the opportunity, you should remind your ex about the good memories. He/she will feel nostalgic and would dream of reliving those moments with you.
After being with someone for a long time, partners tend to take each other’s actions for granted. It may be a simple as doing the dishes or doing and extra effort to look good in front of your friends. You should always pay attention to the small details and not just take them for granted. Show how much you appreciate those little extra efforts. That will make him/her feel good.
Your ex is not the only one who should feel good, you should feel good too. For that, you should bring some positive changes in yourself. Start by getting rid of your bad habits and adopt good ones. If you have a coach potato and have gained a few kilos, hit the gym and get fit. Or maybe you need a wardrobe change, then go shopping for new clothes.
When you do get back together again, remember that you are starting afresh and that you are having the opportunity to start dating again, although it’s with the same person you already fell in love with. You are going to have awesome moments together. Don’t miss a chance to bring back your lost love.