Are you looking to rekindle that romantic relationship flame between you and your lover? There must be lots of conversations in your mind about all you have both been through and how it all ended up. Now you are not sure of what to do but somewhere a voice keeps repeating in your mind telling you to win back your ex and that increases your strong yearn to get him or her back. Well it is very possible to get everything back in place if you follow these 5 strategies to get your ex back quickly:
- Clear your head
A saddened end of a relationship leaves your mind wrecked that you cannot think straight at most times and your emotions get so corrupted that you are completely taken up by feelings of regret and loneliness. If you plan to get your ex back, you must first clear your mind of these joy-depriving feelings and be in full control of your state of mind. It is very easy to tell someone who is in this unfortunate and poor state simply by the look on their face or through their body language and that only works as a turn off to your ex whenever he or she sees you. Get a hold of yourself and don’t let your mind be taken up by negative thoughts. Keep it positive!
- Allow time for healing
Immediately after a breakup, what follows are bad memories and feelings of rejection or vengeance towards your ex. This is a uniform state for both parties and only time heals these wounds. After you have allowed some time for healing, all good memories of the great experiences you both had will replace the recent negative experiences and you will begin to think good of each other.
- Raise your self-worth
Now that you are free and not in a relationship there is enough time for you to think about yourself. You have to strategize on how to raise your self-worth and how you value yourself against other people. Think of correcting some negative traits in your personality that impact on your relationship with people. On the other hand, you have to work on your preventability and self esteem. If you have to get your ex back, you have to be at your best state. A raised self esteem and improved level of confidence turns you into a whole new being that is attractive to your ex. The last thing you want to seem is desperate and needy.
- Assess both your failures and incompatibilities
Look back at your past relationship with an open mind, now that you are a completely new person. Without bias, be honest with yourself on where you might have gone wrong while finding out the actual reason for the breakup. Take a flashback at the last words you both uttered to each other and evaluate the intensity of the heat behind it with a view to change everything for good.
- Make up your mind and allow for reconnection
Now that you have had it all planed, examined and decided in your mind, it is arguably safe and wise to initiate the process of reconciliation. You already have the right way of how to spark up a conversation with your ex, from how you knew them when in a relationship. This time round however, you will need to have confidence and keep calm while contacting him or her. Let it be seen in you that you can now allow them time to speak out their minds and that you are willing to be corrected. Normally they will rebuke you and speak in bitterness but it all calms down to a reconciliatory conversation. It may not all resume immediately but over time everything will pick up and fall in place.
Getting your ex back can be easy as a blink of an eye if you follow the above five steps effectively. Go get him, go get her!!! Yes you can!!!