Your relationship was the most precious thing you ever had and now that it’s broken, you refuse to accept it. Being in denial of the fact that your broke up with your partner is not going to bring back your ex. No matter how attached you are to the relationship, being in denial is not going to help. In fact, it will make getting your ex back even more difficult.
You certainly don’t want to be in the state you are in right now, for ever. That’s what will happen if you don’t quit being in denial, because you don’t want to accept the breakup and you are going to have hopes that everything will be alright, by itself. And when the things you hope for doesn’t happen, you’ll end up being very sad and depressed. The truth is, your broken relationship is not going to fix itself. You will have to put in a lot of efforts and be very disciplined to fix broken relationship.
You will be able to get out of the desperate/sad/depressed state by first accepting the breakup. Put yourself in your ex’s shoes and ask yourself: would you want to be back with someone who is now in a worse state than when you left him or her? So, you will have to work on yourself first.
Now that have accepted that you are single, start behaving like it. Do the things that make you happy. It’s time to do all the things that you had in your mind but never got the time to do when you were in a relationship. Forget about the breakup for now, and learn to be happy on your own, because your happiness doesn’t start and end with your ex-partner. The great thing about all this is that when you feel happy on the inside, it will show on the outside. People want to be around happy people, so does your ex.