Insanely jealous.

Jealousy refers to a strong desire for someone else’s stature or possessions. However, in a social setting, it causes someone to be doubtful of their partner and feel threatened by their interaction with certain people. There are several degrees of jealousy; some can be beneficial for your relationship, whereas the others can be detrimental. Though a mild degree of jealousy will show your partner that your feelings for her are deep, obsessed jealousy can prove to be destructive for your relationship. You want to know where she is at all times, what she has been doing to make her late, or the names of another guys, say her co-workers just makes him mad at you. Thus stop being insanely jealous towards her, otherwise she will find her way out sooner than ever because even she feels like she needs some space.

Irrationally possessive.

Possessiveness is that element which is present in almost every relationship. To determine the level of the possessiveness in your relationship is one important aspect. It is more than normal that you want a partner who is a little possessive about you, because it feels flattering and shows that your partner is devoted to you. However if your possessive cross the boundaries then it becomes dangerous, thus dominating your relationship. Your attachments become so high that instead of feeling secure, you feel a sense of insecurity surging. You will try to control her every aspect of life. Her every decisions lie in your hands, irrespective of her opinions. Your partner is forced to do what you want as her desires and wants do not count anymore. The objective of a possessive partner is to try to install a fear for him deep inside you and will shift all the blame on you so easily without accepting the responsibility. Therefore instead of remaining in relation with such a man, she will prefer to break up as she is in a point of life where she does not have or want to answer to everybody.

Very clingy and needy.

Nobody wants a clingy man. Being clingy is just about the fact that you want to be with your girlfriend all the time, you want her all for yourself and this is a sure thing that your relationship won’t last long due to the annoying nature of your partner. Your significant other wants all of your attention; he wants you to focus just on him. He gets into a fit of rage when you do something which does not involve both of you.  Your better half wants you to have no other life of your own apart from being with him. He cuts off all the relations with friends and cousins just to be with you. This kind of behavior often becomes annoying and problematic to continue in such a relationship. It is very important to give your partner her room of separateness.

A little bit of jealousy, clingy of possessiveness is healthy for every relationship, but too much of them can deteriorate your relationship. If you think that you’ve been exerting too much of these behaviors, then it’s time to change your way of thinking. As it is, there is always room for improvement.

The relationship goes on smoothly.

From start to the end, your relationship will go on smoothly. Negative thoughts will never crop up in your minds whatever is the situation. There are many relationships where the couple breaks up and get back together again, and this happens not only once but many a time. So, any problem arising between you both, your man will have a greater hand in controlling the situation and work through issues that could hurt your relationship. The way your partner handles the disagreement will show how capable he is in building your relationship towards a stronger future.

Your man gets along well with your family.

Your partner will get along well with all your family members if he is the right person for you. He will realize that the first relationship you were tied up with is your parents, so he will never try to separate you or keep you at a distance from your family. He will not try to keep you all for himself and controlling your life. He knows that marriage is the bringing of the two families together and not becoming an isolated couple.

He likes you the way you are and does not want to bring major changes in you.

If your man approached you at the first time, and decided to be engaged in a serious relationship with you, then you know that he accepted you however you are. He knows about your characters, your ways of doing everything and so on. Differences in views and ways of doing things may differ from each other, and these conflicts must be worked on. It can be that he doesn’t like something about you which is trivial, that can be changed. But if he tells you to change over completely, then there is surely a problem in continuing your future life with him.

He will make you feel comfortable.

The right man for you will make you feel at ease. He will encourage you in whatever decisions are right for you.  When you are with your partner, you will feel safe and comfortable to share your thoughts. You will feel good when you are with him. You will not feel hesitated about communicating your feelings and concerns with him. You both like each other’s company, and enjoy being together. He always likes to spend quality time with you and thus will carry out plans to go out together at the slightest opportunity in hand.

He understands you need love, affection and sex.

Saying ‘I love you’ will put life in your conversations. But just saying these three words do not suffice, showing love in actions is always more meaningful. His willingness to listen to you, to show you respect, to have patience with you if you don’t understand something, to give you small surprises if not big. He will give you a good morning and a goodnight kiss. He will not only hug you on special occasions or particular reason, but almost every day out of deep affection for you.

As a fact, if you think that there are certain problems in your relationship, don’t exclude them as something so trivial which can later become a great issue. Remember that your days are your life in miniature and as you live your days, so you craft your life. Make sure that your problems are solved and he becomes Mr. Right. As it is said “Marriage is not about finding a person you can live with, it’s about finding the person you can’t live without!”. When you find that man, you are sure he is the one for you.

He is not interested in having sex with you.

When your relationship was new, you both were full of passion, zest and were always open to lovemaking. None was a time when one of you would refuse having sex with your partner. But now it is different. He is reluctant on having sexual relationship with you, and will have it only when he feels like and your wish does not really matter. This is so because he is probably getting it from another source – his extra affair. Therefore, a decrease in sex can warn serious issues in a relationship.

He puts more efforts at looking his best.

Your husband was not one who would look in the mirror every time he goes out. He was not one who would show off his best airs, be stylish or attractive. But your husband is now a changed man. He checks in the mirror every time and he wants to look his best, he tries every new attire and haircuts. And all this happening quite suddenly is sure thing that something is amiss. He might just be on his way to impress his new lover just like he tried on you.

Too much overtime at work.

It is normal that your husband might be caught up in his job and thus has to do overtime at work. He might really be working hard to meet his two ends in this hectic life, but its implication can be different as well. If he stays out of the house at night, it doesn’t necessarily means he’s cheating on you, but if you checked out all other possibilities, then the matter is clear. His sudden business meetings, sudden business trips, unreachable on phone, huge sums of money spent elsewhere and his secretive schedules explain it all.

He gets annoyed when being questioned.

You must be suspicious if it happens that your husband becomes irritated and refuses curtly to answer any question you ask him or replies you only after repeating the question several times. Or when you question him he takes all his time to answer, just formulating an excuse in his mind about where he really was or doing. You will notice that he is always on the defensive rather than explaining to you passively.

His priority shifts away from you.

He does not want to be too indulged with you, your family, your friends, and your circle. Now he has something more interesting than his same old engagements. He will tend to find more time for his new flame, thus ignoring you and your plans. He no longer wants to attend parties and all from your family or friends. A sudden phone call makes him run away from you to attend an important “meeting”. In short, he just wants you out of picture.

Do not exclude the possibility that your husband can never cheat on you and do not jump to any conclusion either, when you are not sure of what is actually happening. Thus, before talking and confronting your husband, be sure you have all the facts and that it’s not just a case of jealousy or your own doubts.

Choose a good place.

In order to seduce a man, a very nice environment needs to be looked for, in a very sensual place. Make sure that you are not in a place where there is so much happening, or too many people around, or loud music. Instead choose a place which is serene and calm, where you both would be concentrating on each other only and the very first thought would surely be a candle light dinner with a soft music and sweet scent.

Play hard to get.

There is absolutely no need to be too obvious and apparent when you are showing interest in a guy. The guy will always feel that you are desperate, that’s the one attitude that most of the guys don’t like. Try and avoid him now and then, but don’t be too bitter that the man will lose interest in you. Giving him a little space will be a good thing for both of you to think and observe.

Eye contact.

Master the art of eye contact because eyes communicate emotions and feelings. Lock your gaze with him and make sure your eyes speak for you in the most oblivious way. If you naturally blush as you do so, it is even better. But remember, prolonged eye contact does not mean to stare at your guy.

Flirt.

Flirting is important, so up the stakes by flirting with him a little. Compliment him as to how he is looking, what he’s wearing or about his choices, but be sure to sound perfectly genuine. Your flirting must be obvious enough for him to notice your intentions but don’t overdo as men don’t like being pushed too hard. Bring up an interesting topic and give your viewpoints, impress him, and while talking you can touch him on his shoulder or wrist. And don’t just nod when you can talk.

Be sensuous and confident.

Dress up yourself in a lavishly sensual dress which will make your slender features more visible. Wear high heel elegant shoes and apply some makeup, working more on your lips, eyes and neck. Be confident of yourself, walk confidently, straightening up your shoulders. Just don’t exaggerate as it will make you have an air of arrogance rather than confidence.

Clean up and smell good.

Pay more attention to your hygiene and looks than usual and do take extra care in doing so. Keep yourself clean by having a wash every day or the other. Have clean and neat hair. Apply a nice perfume but not too strong, two or three pumps should do the work.

For some, these steps might be easy, whereas for others it might be as difficult as climbing the Everest, but never give up. Life is full of tests, if you succeed in the points above, then this day can be the very first day of your new relationship. All the best!

Taking responsibility of one’s own actions.

Don’t do things that you know are wrong and then blame others. Never blame your woman just to escape the raising fingers, in your direction. Accepting one’s mistakes is always a good initiative towards a truthful relationship. One of the meanings of the word “husband” is someone who competently manages his household. Thus, a man must take a proper look at himself and envisage how he can change his own actions to handle similar situations in future cases as it should be.

Leadership begins on the extra mile.

Ordinary people don’t spend much time on the extra mile. But who said that you are ordinary? Leadership is shown when a salesperson makes extra calls at the end of an exhausting day, not because it’s the easy thing to do but it’s the right thing to do. Leadership is shown by the manager who finishes a report that has taken the very best of him, and then goes back to it a little later to improve it even more. And leadership is shown by that man who fights the urge to stay under cover when he sees a difficult situation has to be dealt with. If a man wants to be seen as worthy and maintain a good relationship with his woman, he has to show his leadership by stepping forward and handling the difficult situations. Nobody admires the man who prefers to stay back and wait for others to solve the problem but the one who takes the initiative to resolve the troubles.

Never be afraid of making decisions.

A man needs to make decisions and take the responsibility for the outcomes. If he is hesitant to make decisions, the woman may dislike him. Part of making decisions is understanding the other person’s views and being flexible. The most common words “It’s up to you” actually frustrates your woman. She surely doesn’t want someone controlling her, but she also doesn’t want someone who leaves all the decisions upon her. Most often, he doesn’t want to make a decision only to avoid being criticized. A man should not be afraid of making a wrong decision. He must believe in himself and have faith in his abilities. Without a humble but reasonable confidence in his own powers he can neither be happy nor make his woman happy.

Be strong morally.

To be strong does not literally mean to be physically strong. Someone who can control his anger is far better than a physically strong man who claims he can conquer many things in the world. Blowing up in anger can seriously smash up a relationship. Not getting angry doesn’t mean he has to accept bad conduct, instead he calmly sets limits on the treatment he accepts from others. No one would like to be in a situation where he would say, “I knew that if I failed controlling my anger I wouldn’t regret but the one thing I might regret is not trying to do so”.

Be more manly than macho.

Being manly does not relate to anything like being macho. Being macho is important but being manly is more vital. Manly relates to that person who has qualities such as courage, self-confidence, self-discipline, honesty and integrity attributed to him. A man who is manly has the decisiveness to deal with difficulty, pain or danger without backing away, despite his fear. He would be the most desirable person with whom a woman would like to tread along all her life.

If you think that you can not make your relationship much better in your life, then there’s no way you will take the action required to make that goal a reality. Your “impossibility thinking” manifests itself. Therefore, combat your negative thoughts and make it possible by working on those points and you will see that you’ll get what you want and love what you have.

Problems arising between you can be solved with minute care and details without the idea of filing for a divorce. Remove the word divorce from your thoughts because more you think about it, more you will go towards that step.

Communication is one of the most vital elements between couples. Either there is too much of communication or there is indeed a lack of conversation. Communication is a two-way process. It is never done that one keeps talking and the other just keep listening. There must be an understanding between both. An interaction must follow and views must be shared. You have to understand each other very well so that you can keep communication up to the level and can advise each other.

To err is human. If you committed a mistake, accept it immediately to avoid lengthy and tacky discussions. Do not let your egocentric attitude be responsible for your fights. Also, never point fingers at your opposite for the mistakes he or she has done, especially if the latter has already accepted that he really erred. Doing so can re emerge the sense of anger and hatred that was once harbored by you. So it is better to forgive and forget to avoid situations that can be detrimental.

Never let your work become a hurdle between you both. Find time from your hectic schedule for each other. Sometimes too much of work can drift you both apart, which means that communication will really be lacking. Avoid being too career-oriented which can endanger your happy married life. Balance your work and your marital life.

Shun the habit of leaving things untold between you, whatever is the matter. Make it a practice to talk openly to each other. Do not feel hesitant of saying or admit something even if you feel it is stupid or awkward which perhaps may not be as such for your companion. It is always better to talk everything rather than hear it from someone else which can aggravate the situation. Talking freely to each other increases the level of trust and confidence in a relationship.

Be patient and loving. This can subside the anger in you. Whatever is the trouble, solve it coolly. Sit together and work out the difficulty, it really works. Getting angry is in one’s nature, but never try to solve a problem in anger, it will result in nothing, as in anger you often say things which are harsh that are not meant to be said and ultimately, this will intensify your situation.

Share your hobbies, thoughts and favorites. It is all but real that somewhere a couple’s hobbies and views are just not the same. So compromise is primordial. Adopt each other’s views and thoughts. Accompany each other in your respective activities or thoughts. This plays a great role in appreciating one’s attitude and will eventually bring you more close.

Bring back the romance between you. A romantic mood can always change your bad behavior and subsides the bitterness between married couples. A romantic dinner, a romantic mood or a romantic trip can always be a medium to pacify each other and get on to your marital delight. So, always let your passionate mood take over your nasty temper.

A marriage is not successful when you tie the knot or take the vows or accept each other as your lovely wedded spouse. It is up to your effort to make it like one. Adopt these guidelines into practice, you will never have to be driven towards divorce and if you are already, you will surely retread.