When you have been in a relationship for a long time, you get so used to having your partner with you all the time that you can’t even imagine a life without him. So, when a breakup happens and the person is not around you anymore, you start feeling lonely. It’s normal to feel lonely, but you also need to realize that fearing loneliness will ruin your chances of getting back with your ex, if that’s what you actually want.
Before anything else, you will need to make sure that the reason you want him back is because you still love him and you still believe that both of you are meant to be together. If you want him back in your life only because you fear loneliness, then it’s not going to work out well. You should rather get yourself a dog or another pet if loneliness is your issue. This may sound harsh to you right now, but honestly you’ll likely feel more miserable when he leaves you again. He is not going to stick around for long if you’re only using him to fill a blank space in your life.
Now that the breakup has already happened, you should use this as an opportunity to re-assess yourself, figure out what you really want. It’s very important that you also leave your ex alone for a while. You want him to miss you and feel your absence in his life, and that’s not going to happen if you are always harassing him with phone calls or stalking him wherever he goes. He will probably want to run further away from you. Pushing him further away is definitely not an effective way for getting back with your ex.
Many people, at some point after a breakup, start to feel desperate and they end up begging their exes to come, even apologizing when they did nothing wrong. This scenario is another thing you should avoid at all costs. Don’t stay stuck in a mourning phase, always depressed and crying. It’s normal to feel sad when your relationship ends, but after a while, you will have to come out of the mourning phase. In fact, you should come out stronger than before. You certainly don’t want to make him come back to you out of pity. He should really want it too, that’s how your renewed love story will become stronger than ever.
The easiest thing to do to forget about your sorrows and stop fearing loneliness is to hang out with friends. Maybe you haven’t been in touch with many of your friends since you have been with your partner. Now that you are single and have a lot a free time, you could reconnect and rebuild your friendships. When you are with friends, avoid talking about your breakup if you can, because you want to remember happy moments and feel good again.
It’s also equally important to hang out on your own as well. Sitting alone somewhere, watching a beautiful scenery will help you clear your mind. You’ll need a clear mind if you want to win back your ex. And, you will also need to have a plan of action before you attempt getting back with your ex. You don’t want to mess up your only chance.