The breakup has left you completely shattered and yet you still want your ex back, because you’re still in love. Surely the thought of making him jealous by dating him someone else so he will come back back must have crossed your mind.
In fact, it is completely natural that you think so.
When the person whom you loved so much causes you pain, the thought of hurting his feelings certainly makes sense. But you might end up doing a very big mistake that could cost you your relationship for good. The post-breakup period is a very delicate moment, if you don’t know what you’re doing, it’s better you don’t do anything.
Using jealously as a tactic to make your ex want you back works, but there is a wrong way of doing it… and a right way. Like we said before, you don’t want to do anything wrong now because it would ruin any chance you might have for reuniting with your ex.
Jealousy is an effective tactic and also very well-known. If you are not very smart at using it, your ex will figure it out and it might backfire. After all, anyone who wants to make an ex jealous is going to date someone else. Everybody knows this.
Once your ex figures it out, he will consider you being manipulative, and no one wants to be with a manipulative person. And then, the results won’t be anywhere near what you were expecting:
- Instead of wanting you back, he will hate you even more.
- Your ex might decide to do the same to you, that is, date someone else in front of your eyes.
- He may not even want to talk to you at all, and that could almost be the beginning of the end for your relationship.
How Do You Make it Work Then?
Actually, it’s easier said than done, but your plan to make your ex jealous by dating someone else shouldn’t look like it has been planned. In fact, it should look like your ex accidentally bumped into you on our date.
Unfortunately, most people going through a breakup don’t realize that and they end up making their plans too obvious. For example, if you know your ex usually hangs at a restaurant, and you show up at that very restaurant holding someone else’s hand, you are making it obvious that you want to make him jealous.
And that’s it, you just made the biggest mistake.
What you can do instead is to get a trustworthy mutual friend to get the news of you dating someone else to your ex’s ears. Once again, you need to make sure your friend doesn’t mess it all up. And soon, your ex will start getting curious about the new guy and he might even start thing that if he doesn’t do anything fast, he might lose you for good.
Of course, if you sit down and think about it, I’m sure you can come up with many ideas that will make your plans look natural. Now is probably a good time to put your acting skills in practice. But, whatever you do, you have to be very careful such that you do overboard.
Once you understand the thin line that exists between how using jealousy can backfire and how jealousy can get you want you want, you will be all set to make your ex want you back.