Lots of famous and regular spouses are cheating. What should the spouse that’s been cheated on do? What determines if the marriage is over of worth another try?
What should be seriously considered if you want to save marriage. What would the cheating spouse have to do/say to get another chance at repairing marriage?
I have never known a couple where one spouse was caught cheating who didn’t do it again. Unless you’re prepared to forgive and forgive and forgive I vote divorce. This is only coming from my experience of what I see my friends and family do though.
It depends on the people involved, sometimes a marriage can be healed but the cheater has to call every person he cheated with in front of the spouse and tell each person that they are back with the wife.husband and they are no longer going to see each other. It is up to the cheated to [rove himself and his sincerity. The one who was cheated on needs to figure out if this person is being sincere and if they have the energy or the want to continue with the relationship.
I don’t think you can ever really work past it. It will always be a shadow over the marriage, and there will always be doubt and mistrust on the part of the person who was cheated on.
I was seperated for 2.5 years, within that time my ex has said a few times he wanted to come back and work things out. the most recent time he sounded sincere so I slowly tried to start things back up again. It was going good for about 1 month then the shady behavior started back up so I gave up. Not willing to go through that pain again. Once someone ruins trust it’s very hard to get it back if ever.
If you really want to save the marriage, go to marriage counseling. It will take time to build trust in the relationship. The one who cheated, if they are remorseful and want to work on repairing the marriage, then they should do what it takes to make the partner comfortable. The one cheated on should in time, with therapy, should begin to feel they can trust their partner again over time. This is only successful if the both of you are willing to work on this.
well if you were in love with the person in the first place you wouldnt cheat i dont care what anybody says its true. once a cheater always a cheater.
All that is really up to the couple and how much they value the relationship and if the one thats been cheated on can forgive, make changes so it won’t happen again and trust the cheater again.
Or learn to live with infidelity
I think a person can forgive but you’ll never forget. Something or someone will say something and it will make you remember what they’ve done. You have two choices deal with it or don’t……..
First and foremost, if it was infidelity that means they stopped themselves before it got to adultery.
Something to be said for that.
Otherwise it’s up to the wronged spouse to decide.
If the cheating spouse isn’t remorseful and if the cheated-on spouse cannot find their fault in the way things went awry and fix things then it’ll just happen again.
Infidelity does not happen in isolation – typically both spouses are straying just one is more "successful" than the other.
A confession should count for something; that means they ended things on their own and didn’t wait until they were caught.
You never forget but it does get to a point where it feels like it was a life-time ago. Getting even also helps.
What should the spouse that’s been cheated on do?
If they are willing to work it out, nothing…the cheater owes it to them to make up for what they’ve done. If they aren’t willing to work it out, the answer is obvious.
What determines if the marriage is over?
One or both spouses are unwilling to work it out or acknowledge what they did wrong.
What should be seriously considered to save a marriage?
Children are always the main thing, but if the couple is so unhappy it’s going to distress the kids by them being together, than they might as well split. There was a statistic that the majority of marriages ended within the first few years, or after the kids had left, when the parents realized that all of their energy was put into the kids and not each other. Once they were gone, there was nothing left.
Chances for repairing marriage?
True remorse, and the willingness to be ‘on parole’ for as long as it takes to regain the trust – email passwords, access to cell phone, phone records, accountibility to where he/she is going or where they have been, etc.
People can say they want to work past infidelity but if the affair continues nothing will change. Stopping cheating and being honest are the first steps to healing a marriage.
Its worth another chance if you both are still in love with each other. If the cheating spouse is willing to own up to everything and be totally truthful about it, its worth another chance. If the cheater begs your forgiveness and is willing to do what ever it takes to keep you and make you happy, then, its worth another chance. God Bless you and your marriage, i’m praying for you
Nothing in my book would be ever considered if my spouse cheated, well I take that back, I would consider if I threw her out the window or the door. Keep in mind both the window and the door would be closed the first attempt
Well for one thing the person who has been cheated on would have to see if they could forgive the other person. If they end up fighting about it for the rest of their lives then it’s not worth it. Some people do cheat only once. It does happen. I think that finding out why it happened could really help. I know that some people would say that there is never a good reason to cheat but I don’t see it that way. If a woman or man was to refuse their spouse sex for years and years well then we could see why it could happen. We are all human. Some people could be genuinely sorry. I would say that the cheating spouse would have to be quite open about emails, cellphones to assure the other person that they have nothing to hide. It would help the person who is cheated on at first to rebuild the trust. It doesn’t have to be the end of a marriage. Once again I think that the reason why it happened could determine if the marriage is worth saving.
I tried my best to save my marriage after being cheated on time after time. We both are alcoholics, but I got sober he didn’t. I’ve been sober almost 20 yrs. now & he’d been to countless detoxes & 28 day programs. I kept hoping he would sober up & we’d have a chance at our marriage. WRONG! It didn’t get any better as time went by. He’d even leave me for others, call to come back "home" because I was the "only one" who could help him. It just didn’t work out that way. At the last counselor we saw, he told him he was a womanizer & to get extra help in that area alone. Of course he didn’t do it. I finally realized nothing was going to change, when he called to come "home" the last time I got the courage to say "keep on going". He had nothing but the clothes on his back & headed up state to his home town. I even asked him to call me at every stop along the way to make sure he was still traveling in the rite direction. Even tho I was beat in work the next day, it was well worth the last 6 a.m. call to let me know he arrived. I haven’t seen or heard from him since. But what a total relief it was to finally feel free from it all & to be able to go forward with my life. I have been happy ever since. You’ll never forget, but I do believe if it’s meant to be that it can be worked out & you actually could be happy. I believe counseling also would be a help as I had lots of counseling but was told it was not going to work out twds. the end. On a "normal" cheating basis, unlike mine, you would need to love one another & want it to work out. People do make mistakes, & believe it or not I do not believe once a cheater always a cheater. I have seen those who have "repaired" their marriages & were happy again. It all depends on how badly you want it…:)
divorce, divorce thats everyones answer to everything its so easy to gt married but to get a divorce is harder