4 Psychological Tricks To Make Your Ex Girlfriend Miss You And Want You Back 51


Getting your ex girlfriend back can be your worst nightmare if you do not take the right steps at the right time. It is like trying to fix a piece of broken glass: while you may join the pieces, the cracks will still remain. However, you can make your ex girlfriend miss you again like crazy and even want you back. With some discipline, your relationship with her can become like it used to be before the breakup.

In all the steps you take, do not display any signs of being desperate for her as this will make things worse. If you nag her and try to make her feel sorry for you, you are missing the point. The crucial weapon you need is confidence accompanied with super schemes.

Here are some psychological tricks you can use to your advantage and make your ex girlfriend miss you again:

Stay away from her for a while

This step is very important. You need to give her some time and space to reflect over what really happened between the two of you. Whatever you do, do not try to send her flowers, call her or send her text messages. Although this step is hard, try to control your emotions. Both the two of you need this time and space. Not only does the time make you think strategically, it also gives her time to miss you.

Take approximately three weeks before contacting her again. Do not overdo the stay away part, because your ex might give up on waiting for you. If you know her habits, which you should, then you would know where to find her.

If she tries to contact you within that period, be brief in your answers; show very little or no interest at all.

Do not dance to her tune

When you break up with your girlfriend, she expects you to act in certain ways. She will be waiting to see you sad, bored, less enthusiastic and stressed. Try to play happy and content with life. If she finds out that you are not as troubled as she expected she will grow some interest in you. She will feel as if she is missing out on something.

The next steps involve contacting her and the things to do after that.

Try to change her attitude towards you

Take a close look at yourself, you were once the guy she fell in love with and now you are separated. Try to figure out what may have happened in the relationship. Become the man she fell in love with in the first place. This way you will prove to her you have changed. Show her you care for her and are willing to make things work.

If you were away for a while, then you suddenly surprise her with all the kindness you can offer, she will start missing every second she is away from you.

Do not use another relationship to lure her

You may hang out with other women, especially friends, but do not get into another relationship. Trying to make her jealous with another may annoy her and make her move on. Just try and show that life will continue even without her, but do not show her that you can love another woman too fast. This way she will want to spend more time with you.

Getting your girlfriend back may not happen in a jiffy, it takes lots of confidence to execute very shrewd tactics. If your final plan is to make her fall in love with you, make sure you MEAN every word you tell her.


 

Note from Exnomore.com team:

We have had quite a few people contacting us about their breakup. We are trying our best to reply everyone with helpful advice, but sometimes due to lack of information we are not able to do so effectively. As we often say, no one knows your situation better than you, and we also understand that you may not feel comfortable to share intimate details with us. That’s why we encourage you to read and do some homework on your own as well. Please read through the various articles on this blog for more guidance.


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51 thoughts on “4 Psychological Tricks To Make Your Ex Girlfriend Miss You And Want You Back

  • exnomore Post author

    How long has she been seeing the other person? She is probably trying to forget the pains of a breakup by being with someone else. She can’t fall in love again so fast, can she?

    You can still be her friend, right? So, be that and show her the YOU she fell in love with.

  • B

    Im financially supporting my ex gf from 4 years ago, we dated one year but ive been superbly attached to her. Shes been really depressed from money problems and bills ans ive been sending her money to help her out to show I care about her n before all this she was really sad n all n now shes using smiles in texts when we chat and exclamation marks but we aren’t back together yet.

    • exnomore Post author

      Hey B! 4 years is a long time! Other than sending her money to show how much you care, are you actively doing anything to get her back? Your comment is not detailed enough so that we clearly understand your situation, but if you really believe that you two are meant to be together, go out there and do what it takes to win her back. You will find lots of info here to guide you. Hope to hear from you again.

  • Tommy

    Me and my girlfriend broke up about 6 weeks ago, she’s was really cold with me at first avoiding and not talking to me then I found out she was seeing someone else and only resently they broke up and now she’s wants to be friends with me now we are talking and I notice she stairs at me from time to time just so confused what does this mean.

    • exnomore Post author

      Hi Tommy,

      If your girlfriend started seeing someone else after breaking up with you, it was probably just a rebound relationship. Rebound relationships don’t last long most of the time. She probably didn’t feel any love for him. Now that you two are talking again, use this opportunity to clear up all the misunderstandings first. Resolve the issues that caused the breakup calmly.

      If you believe you are meant to be together, make sure it is the absolute right thing for you and go for it.

  • Tim

    Hey, my girlfriend of 1.5 years broke up with me just under a month ago now. It was relatively all of a sudden and I didn’t see it coming. Her reasons were “I need to learn to be independent” and said it was nothing I did but I don’t know what to believe anymore. I havnt initiated any contact with her but she has with me a couple times and I’ve replied, we have seen each other in person 3 times since the breakup and everytime was very positive and with laughter.

    When she originally broke up with me she said “I’m not saying we can’t get back together, just not in the next month atleast.”
    But yesterday was the last time I saw her at a concert I bought tickets for before we broke up and I Saw a new guy as her lock screen on her phone which made me sick. I don’t know if they are a thing or she is trying to make me feel jealous? I just want a second chance with her and I’ve decided I will not reply to any text she might send me for ATLEAST 2 weeks and see how we go. She seems to be getting more and more cold towards me the nicer I am to her?

    Please help

  • avi

    Hi,
    My ex and me of 2.5 years broke up a month ago. There was a fight over a new guy her senior at office. Both were calling each other late into the night. Though my ex denies any relationship with him. But she is hiding things that we were open about like Facebook chats and all.
    We had a messy break up. But post break up she went on dinner with me wearing the dress I gifted her. We had a nice dinner and then at night I found her busy with that office colleague
    We fought. She denied.
    She said she needs time to understand she loves me or not. She waned me to try to find someone and if I felt that someone is not good then come back to me. She said her priorities changed and she cannot be with me.
    She blocked me on whatsapp.
    I went no contact. she unblock me. I still maintain no contact she blocked me again. 1 week of no contact. Will she comeback? We were very close. She may not be the best looking girl. But I love her. Now I am going parties with friends to avoid her. But still miss her.

    • exnomore Post author

      Hi Avi,

      You know, without trust a relationship is doomed to fail. If you can’t trust your partner, we then have a very serious problem. You will have to figure out why you have trust issue and see how you can solve them.

      At the same, lies is fatal to a relationship too. Telling lies is like pushing a relationship towards a cliff, sooner or later, it will fall off he cliff.

      There seems to be a lot of confusion between the two of you. First, you have to make sure for yourself that she is the one for you and she deserves that you do all the efforts to get her back. Then if you want to go ahead, start by clearing all the confusion. Say things exactly as you feel. Hear her out too. Why her priorities changed?

      Getting an ex back is certainly not easy, but very possible if you dedicate yourself to it. Only you know what best for you. All the best.

  • shane

    My girlfriend and I broke up two days ago I just realized I can’t live without her but she doesn’t want to get back together what should I do in this situation?

    • exnomore Post author

      Hi Shane,

      We don’t have enough information to give you a proper answer. We understand that you may not want to share all the details here, but we are sure one of the many articles on our site may help you out whatever your situation is.

      Getting back together with an ex-girlfriend is not impossible. Do your homework, do some reading and be fully prepared to make it happen because it’s going to be hard.

      All the best.

  • Rajiv Seegoolam

    Hi. My girlfriend broke up our 4 years relationship around 1 month ago. I was the cause of the break up as I’ve lied to her and flirt with other women. I explained to her that I did make a mistake and that things like this will never happen again but she says that she can no longer take any risk to return back with me, as we already broke up 2 times before and now third time she has no strength anymore. She said that she forgives me as always but this time she won’t return. Last week we spoke after 3 weeks of no contact and she told me that I can call her but I must not talk about what happened and also about getting back. She said that it must be casual talks and that I should call her only once a week or else she won’t answer and will get angry. She said to me in front of her parents that she do still loves me but can’t get back together again. What do you suggest me to do?

    • exnomore Post author

      Hi Rajiv,

      You said “she forgives me as always but this time won’t return”. Does that mean you have done the same or similar mistakes before? If that’s the case, you probably never really addressed the actual cause of the breakup. If the true reason of conflict is never really resolved, chances of staying together for long, even after getting back an ex, is very slim.

      Respect her decision. If she doesn’t talk about what happened, it’s probably because it’s a very painful issue for her. Bring that up all the time is not going to help. You already know what happened, now what you can do is show her that it WON’T EVER happen again if she decides to take you back.

  • Wtg

    I’ve been with her for two years. She broke up with me cause she has no feelings. I acted wronly roght after break up. I was being desperate and all that. Now its been 1 month and a half we broke up. Until now i dont see her progress. As in she does not miss me and stuff. So what do i do to get her back? Do i just follow the same step?

    • Wtg

      When i texted her to say sorry for acting needy and stuff, she totally ignores me. Ans she even told me once she does not want to have relation with me. As in like friends. She wants me to be her stranger so help me please.

      • exnomore Post author

        Hi Wtg,

        You should know that not everyone takes the same time to heal from the wounds of a breakup, or maybe your breakup was really messed up. It’s hard for us to understand your situation in just a few lines. Have you checked our recommended resource to understand well where you stand?

  • Dib

    Me and my ex somewhat remained in contact on and off after she pretty much dumped me. I told her how I felt and she kept saying she didn’t know and even said things to make me think like ” well she must feel something” .I asked her why would you always tell me things like ” i’m glad your part of my life ” etc. She didn’t really give me a reason or whatever and then we stopped talking for a week. Then she texts me saying she wanted to start over and I wasn’t bowing to her whim or anything and we talked for a little. Now I’ve started the long over do no contact at the beginning of this month. She called me last week and I obviously ignored it. I know she was at least expecting a text as well like I use to when I couldn’t pick up. I’ve kind of been thinking about it I don’t know if she missed me or not. Either way i’m going to continue no contact but uhm how long should I continue just this whole month or next month as well ?

  • Brandon

    Hi,

    My girlfriend (19) broke up with me (25) 2 weeks ago because she doesn’t has feelings for me anymore and she also said that it is a little bit the age differences and that I told her once that she is behaving like a girlfriend of her. I know it was very stupid to say that, the other problem is that I didn’t gave her space. She also told me that there is no chance to be together anymore. I love her allot and want her back. After she broke up with me I didn’t contact her at all and she also (till this day) didn’t contact me. What can I do? Please help..

  • Cha

    Me and my girlfriend were in a rocky relationship a month ago. We’re in a long distance relationship. She started working and didnt have the time to talk to me. In her new office theres a lot of guys liking here which start our fight everyday. Then one day i broke up with her. She was asking me why and she’s not entertaining those guys. But i broke up with her cos she doesnt have time and we’re in a long distance relationship. Then the day we broke up i talked to my ex girlfriend thru facetime then my current gurlfriend that time knew that i talked to my past. She was so mad and didnt talk to me. After days she admitted that she started seeing someone cos my stupid move which is talking to my ex, triggers her to see someone. Now she talk to me sometimes telling me that right now she really doesnt want to get back in our relationship but maybe when we see each other again which is 2 mos from now. What bothers me is the guy that she’s seeing. I dont want them to end up together while me waiting to see here after 2 mos

  • mike

    I had a breakup with my girlfriend one year ago, six months ago i started texting her on facebook, her reply was always bad and angry with me, i then stop texting her for more than five months. Off late i got her phone number from her friend, we started talking and she told me she have a boyfriend now. She told me, she is still feeling for me. She told me she always remember the day i took her virginity, her parent knows her boyfriend, i don’t know what to do now, please help me out.

  • Juma

    Hi, i have a big problems on my ex grl i was trying to go to the witchcraft so as to solve my problems of making my ex grl back but there’s no any positively consideration simply because after broke our relationship she say that she have another man so she never love me again coz she love him more than, sometimes i try to text her but she remain without answering me and i love her so much so how can i due to break their relationship and come back to me to prosed our relationship? Please help me

  • Juan

    I was in a serious relationship for about 3 years.
    We had a split up in March due to her Ex making threats to her children about me being no good and not to be with me.
    She broke up with me. I pleaded (Mistake) then started the NC rule. After almost a month she contacted me via friends phone and asked me if I was mad. She told me she missed me and loved me.
    We got back together and that lasted almost 2 months.
    Now in early June a similar situation happened again, but with my children. She broke it off again. I did the pleading again with no response from her. I started NC again.
    Friends of mine tell me that she’ll be back again. Through a friend she told them that she loved me & missed me, but to have patience, trust and not to worry.
    Any help I would appreciate it.

  • Eh

    My situation is a bit tricky,
    My ex broke up with me roughly about a month ago, she says she can’t handle the commitment at this age(we are early 20’s), I feel like if I didn’t text her and if she hadnt to cancel plans with friends we might still be together. However after the break up we tried being casual relationship but it kept leading back to a real relationship which would put her in a bad mood and we would argue. Recently she asked for a break as everything felt like it had rules and regulations and she can’t handle that right now, its been a few days since we contacted, I know she’s talking to other guys. She said she’ll wants to meet up again at some stage for a walk and will let me know. What should I do, I know I should give her the break , but how do I get her back? Have I messed up the situation to much?

  • Tenzin

    Hi sir/mam
    My girlfriend broke up with me.its been 1 month.the reason she broke with me is i was being immature.i always make her feel down.i most of give bad compliment.it’s my first relation.i was just making fun of her but she got too tired of seeing me like that and she got hurt.i have also begged her and apologies for many times.so any advice how to win back her?she knows that i didnt do intention to hurt her.she told me to change my behavior before and i also used to say advice me where i got wrong.she used to say she have to act like a guy cause i was acting like a guy.

  • Tenzin

    Now i havent contact her for 2 weeks.she block most of social media of me only viber is left that i can contact with her.she also comment few pics of her ex boyfriend at a time after break up.is she doing intention to make me jealous

  • Tyler

    my gf broke up with me but she wants to stay friends but i want to be with her again. she even texts me still but i should i play a little hard to get and maybe not see her in the mornings and not text her good morning and goodnight like i used to?

  • Jericho

    My girlfriend of 1.5 years broke up with me over some odd reason just a month ago. She thinks that my mom hates her even though my mom stated that she likes her a lot. This was her reason of breaking up with me. But ever since she started being best friends with this girl, she’s been acting so weird. I think that this new best friend of hers was the one who encouraged her to break up with me. Then on social media, she keeps posting guys with the caption “bae” on the bottom and is really making me sick. I’ve always been there for her whenever she was alone and needed someone and I sacrificed so much even a basketball scholarship to college just so i can be with her. I feel like she just took me for granted :(

  • duke

    Hi i recently broke up with my gf just like a month ago,it been quite stressful without her because we did everything together bt i cheated on her three times. After the third time she said the trust was gone but we still made love. She began seeing someone too but promised to let him go cause she believed even tho i hurt her we were still meant for each other. Right now she keeps asking me to let her go n its hard for me because i barely have friends and im the indoor type. What do i do cause im madly in love with her

  • Rick

    Hi,
    I would really appreciate your inputs on my situation and what could I do to improve things between us. Thank you in advance.
    I was in a relationship with this girl for the past 1 and a half year.. We became close real fast and were very serious about each other… She’s German and was in the country for her internship.. She left after first 6 months and came back after a couple of months.. She said that she had come down for me.. WE started living – in.. We discussed faMILY, KIDS, future, moving to EU together.. everything was going good until of last August when I started to get jealous about her moves, I got controlling and things started to get worse.. we spoke about it a lot of times where she expressed how she felt but I was not able to understand why I was doing that.. During our discussion I would always say I did .. This February she called it off and since then I have been a mess.. I gave it a lot of thought and realised my mistakes and why I was doing it.. I tried talking to her .. begged her.. pleaded her .. but she says that she has lost all her feelings for me and would never get back to me.. She says she is over the pain and it’s just anger in her now.. She also said that she started to loose feelings from me since August and by New years it was almost gone.. She tried to fix things in her but couldn’t.. I don’t know what to do.. I have lost the love of my life.. She is the one for me and I am not able to think straight since then.. I chased, begged, pleaded her after she dumped me.. Did all those mistakes.. She initially would reply and tell me to move on and nothing would make things better between us but I kept trying.. For the past 4 months she hasn’t responded to any of my attempts to contact her. She said that my messages were disturbing. I haven’t tried to contact her for 2 months now. I know it’s already been 9 months but I still love her like day one and would want her back, even if it takes years of waiting.

  • Tyler Rivera

    My girlfriend and I broke up about a week and a half ago. This was due to a lot of stress that occurred and she wasn’t mentally stable enough to handle the stress of our relationship and carry on with her life. It was hard for her to concentrate on school and her sports and also making time to visit her dad that lives in another state. And on top of that this drama that happened. It was a lot for her so we settled on a break up. I’ve been following the “No Contact” period since the breakup and I already told her that friends might be a bad idea and she was a little mad when I said that but she understands. I think if I give it time and give her space to experience life without me she’ll soon realize that she wants me back. Or will start to miss me a little. Can you help me out or give me some tips on how to get her back. Thank you!

    • exnomore Post author

      These are not the only 4 tips to assist you in getting back with your ex. Depending on your situations, there are many other opportunities for you to be together. Feel free to share your story here or by email.

  • Mark

    Ok.. I have this gorgeous ex problem. We dated for a year 10 years ago. We always kept in touch. I recently moved downtown and we are practically neighbors and been hanging out all the time. She says she doesn’t want a relationship but she sends me all these mixed signals. She asked me to stay the night before I left town for New Years. Remember I live right across the street at another apartment complex. We did have sex or make out. I’m so confused.

  • Dyllan

    My ex and I dated for 3.5 years and I was always her rock to lean on and we had plans of marriage and future and so on and we’re eatchothers best friends. I got a very high demand job which lasted for about 2 months and rarely had time for her. She said she felt she didn’t know me as well as she used to and that she didn’t want to be in a relationship. Right after the breakup she went on a date and starting seeing another guy. I quit my job and am now working at a local resturant about two months later and gotten in the best shape of my life and feel 10 times better then when I was working at my other job. So I know my ex still has feelings for me but will she give me another chance?

  • Myson Ashu

    after being with her for more than 2 moxths and showing her all the love and care,she suddenly told me she does not feel any love for me so she break up.what should i do to get her back?

    • exnomore Post author

      It’s weird that she stayed with you 2 months if she did not feel any love. What happened between the time you initially met (when she probably loved you) and the time you noticed a change in her attitude? Try to work on those things. All the best

  • LOKIE

    How can you make your girlfriend back when she’s away from and you know she is lying sometimes to see her friends. Before i got jealous to her friends she has crush in his 1 friend and i saw her diary she was 14 that time until now. Thats why i upset when we are apart HELP PLS.

  • Cory

    So me and my ex broke up yesterday and I really miss her and I wanna figure out how to make me feel like she did when she fell in love with me any help would be greatly appreciated

    • exnomore Post author

      Hi Cory,

      You just broke up yesterday, so a little break (the no contact rule) could be very beneficial before you try to get her back. Spend some time reading the articles on this site and you can better plan how to get her back.

      All the best.

  • Ernbob

    My gf and I dated for over a year and a half and she broke up with me almost 2 weeks ago. She said she lost interest and doesn’t want to in a relationship anymore. She said we could be friends but has deleted me off of social medias. During this time I have also starred the no contact rule. Do you think I still have a chance or is she really done with me.

    • exnomore Post author

      Hello Hunter,

      You must first know why she broke up with you in the first place. Despite still loving you, if the reason of the breakup is still existant, then it’s very likely that a breakup will happen again. The 2nd time it happens, it can be fatal.

  • Elle

    Well I’m a tomboy and I dated this girl for about 3 months. We were a good couple until things happened during the middle of June. She got mad at me because she felt like I was using her as my way of getting back with my ex. I had no intention of getting back with my ex. And plus she does know my ex. Back in school I would always talk shit about my ex on how much a hated her. That’s when my girlfriend threw her emotions at me and yelled at me. She held it in for so long. I didn’t know she felt that way. But for right now we’re just friends. And it seems like she doesn’t miss me. I wanna prove to her I can be a better person without my ex being in the way. I wanna prove to her that I can be a better boyfriend. I’m the first tomboy she has ever dated. By the way I just prefer myself as a boyfriend, I don’t like calling myself girlfriend that’s weird even if I’m a girl. I need advice and help. please?

  • William

    My ex broke up with me a littlle while after I broke up with her over issues we were having but I gave her a second chance but when we got back together we were arguing again and I made a heap of mistakes and she told me she wasnt happy in our relationship anymore. I understand why she broke up with me but at the time I didnt and I made almost all the bad mistakes you shouldnt do after a breakup and now she is in a what I believe to be a rebound relationship with a guy who is less attractive physically and as a person, but we’re not even talking anymore and I’m having trouble trying to remove the bad image of me she has now. Her best friend is also against us dating and she damaged our relationship while we were in it and then made things much worse after we broke up. I know most of the theory about getting her back but I’m really struggling. I messaged her on the night she started dating this new guy (I had already decided to message her because I’d made a lot of changes as a person and I wanted to show her that) but it was terrible timing and probably just made things worse. I’m terrified that I’ve made irreversible mistakes after the breakup. Please help, this girl is everything to me. I’ve tried moving on but no other girl makes me feel the way she does.

  • Liam

    Me and my gf had dated for 4 and the half years. Recently we just move into another city/state but due to work i have to live in a separated area which is 60km apart. It toke her less then 2 months before i found out she was dating someone else. When i confronted her with all the evidence she did not feel remorse or regret on it. She told me that our relationship had a crack 2 years ago and she do not really see my future with her. I told her i will forgive you if you do not contact the other person who she was seeing behind my back.

    After this incident i was psychology worried and i do not trust her at all. I keep on driving to her house every night to check on her and i hope to get back our relationship back where it was 2 years ago. But it backfire, we argue more and in the end we both ended up crying and i thought it all went smoothly.

    The next day i thought of surprising her with gifts but in the end it was really late at night my plan was to drop the book i made and go home. She asked me to stayed the night. Again in the end we argue and she felt like i was punishing her. I keep on asking question and no matter what she says the fact that she cheated or was seeing someone else when i needed her the most hits me.

    The next day in my head i told myself i wanted to break up for good and drove back to work but later at night my heart felt the pain as such as i am right now. I did not see how can she change so fast or she might have plan it but within a month she can fall in love with another guy really cuts me open. Later that night i called her and i notice that guy called where they did not speak for 4 days where i stop her from contacting him. She told me he called and she told him about us. This guy only told her not to choose between us but choose what’s best for her. In my knowledge now he is a very smart and knows the game really well where i am trying my best to get her back with desperate moves and pushing. She explain to me that i need to to focus on myself more, get my own friends back like i used to and she wants me to find myself where i was when she fall in love with me 4 years ago. I used to have a lot of friends and do a lot of stuff on my own but due to the relationship she did not like it i have change for her.

    I need advice from you all if you can. She just text me this arvo with a good morning sunshine. What shall i be doing and how should i be doing to win her back